To Press or Not to Press (the Button)
I want to start with a little thought experiment. Think of it as my PG-rated version of Saw. You're forced live your life carrying a 20-pound backpack on your shoulders. It's not impossible, but it doesn't feel great. You constantly feel the weight, and it's uncomfortable. It doesn't prevent you from living, but it's less than ideal. No single moment causes acute physical pain, but the cumulative impact of wearing it starts taking a toll. The whole time, however, you have the option of removing the weight forever. All that's required is you push a button on your kitchen counter. The moment you push the button, the weight disappears. Instant relief! There's one small catch: You can only press the button once. Would you press the button?
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A couple walks into my office, struggling with debt. They are beaten down and frustrated. They look tired. Here's what their situation looked like:
Student Loan Debt: $22,000 (with a $580 minimum payment)
Car Loan: $15,000 (with a $520 minimum payment)
Credit Card: $10,000 (with a $200 minimum payment)
Additional context:
These are private student loans
The car has negative equity, meaning they would still owe money even if they sold it.
They've been roughly in this same spot for their entire 7-year marriage.
After factoring in these three minimum payments totaling $1,300, they have very little margin in their monthly budget. It's tight! They make it work most months, and are doing alright, but they feel the constant weight and tension. Month after month, year after year, they experience the cumulative impact of this weight. It's nothing acute, but it's starting to feel exhausting. They haven't gone deeper into debt in years but haven't found a way to make progress on it, either. Continually seeing this debt hover around $47,000 is taking a toll.
If only they had a button to push! Well, they do, actually! Here's one detail I haven't shared with you: They have about $60,000 in a savings account. "Have you considered using some of your cash to pay off the debt, which would free up $1,300/month in your budget?" I asked them. Like many people before them, they gave me the answer I prayed wasn't coming. "We can't use that cash. That's our security."
"Security?!?! You don't have any security. You're already drowning!!" I was probably sharper than I should have been, but I needed them to realize how badly they were already hurting. They could immediately pay off all $47,000 of debt and still have $13,000 of cash left.
They aren't alone in this sentiment; it's all too common! The perceived sense of security always emotionally outweighs the benefit of actual relief. This is one area where our psychology tricks us. I'm going to flip this on its head....here's what I believe to be the truth: Actual relief always outweighs our false sense of security. They could press the button, but continually choose not to.
Not all people have these buttons to push, but many do. And with that choice, many choose to continually suffer, all in the name of "security."
Would you press that button?
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