Tyler Joseph Cuts Me Again

Much to my delight, Twenty One Pilots released another single this week. This song, Next Semester, has a 90s punk rock beat (think Blink 182). That's not necessarily my style, but Tyler Joseph has a way of creating powerful experiences in unexpected ways. Next Semester is a deeply powerful and emotional song that cuts to the core of what many of us experience along our journey: mistakes, fear, anxiety, doubt, and regret. Also, like many of their songs, there's a strong lean into faith.

One lyric repeated multiple times is, "Can't change what you've done. Start fresh next semester." This one cuts to the core, as most of us carry many regrets. We've done things we wish we could undo....but we can't. That's a deeply depressing and frustrating reality.

However, Tyler's next words are the key element: "Start fresh next semester." While we can't change the past, every day is an opportunity to carve a new path—a continual second chance.

The lyrics and emotion of the song cut through me in so many ways. I think about all the mistakes I've made in my life—deep, painful, and life-altering mistakes. Decisions I wish could be erased or reversed. I think most of us have similar feelings about moments in our past.

I also think about my coaching work. When I meet couples face-to-face and discuss deeply personal topics such as money, marriage, and careers, many regrets and past mistakes rise to the surface. These past events have a habit of taking hold of us and influencing our behavior, perspective, and decisions (often in toxic ways).

These elephants in the room can sabotage us every step of the way. I don't mean to sound overly dramatic, but they can be haunting....and destructive. For this reason, it's imperative that we confront our guilt and regrets head-on.

First, we can't play the woulda, coulda, shoulda game. We can't what-if our way into a healthy place. Unless we have a Delorian (call me if you do!), the past is 100% cemented in time. We must reckon with the reality that we can do nothing about it.

Second, and more importantly, we can choose to step into a different, better, and brighter future. Remember, making no choice is still making a choice. Something will happen to us tomorrow, whether proactively or reactively.....whether actively or passively….whether good or bad. It won't stay the same. Tomorrow's coming, and it's going to alter our path one way or another.

Once we accept this idea, we can embrace a better future we most certainly deserve. This, right here, is where people's lives change. I've seen it play out in hundreds of people's lives. Whether it's debt, a dead-end career, living month-to-month, stuck in a bad relationship, or failing to get a needed education, better is out there for you.

Can't change what you've done. Let go of the regret. The past is the past.

Start fresh next semester. Tomorrow is a new day. Make it the beginning of something beautiful.