The Undercurrent of Culture
We recently released a podcast episode titled "287 - Controlling Dining Out Without It Controlling You." In it, I talked about the ever-increasing narrative that dining out is simply too expensive. Yes, inflation has caused prices to ratchet up to frustrating levels. However, when people talk about this topic, they share ridiculous stories, attempting to highlight why they (and others) are screwed and in no way, shape, or form can financially succeed (never mind thrive) in this reality. In the episode, I used the example of one Tweet where someone said their family of four (including "two small children") spent $75 on a trip to Panera. Mom, Dad, and two small children.....$75 for Panera. I recently saw another example where someone said it cost their family $60 to eat at McDonalds.
I received several critical comments on the heels of releasing this episode, with the most common one revolving around the idea that I just live in a cheap part of the country (i.e. I don't know what people are really dealing with). While it's true that I don't live in THE most expensive markets in the country, neither do most people on social media ranting and raving about this topic.
I recently decided to do a little experiment with my own family. It was Sarah's birthday, and she wanted to take the boys to a trendy new breakfast restaurant in our town. Since it was her birthday, and knowing I wanted to perform this experiment, I simply instructed the family to get whatever they wanted. Sarah and I each enjoyed an entree (which we split and share with each other because that's what we always do), plus coffee. The boys elected for fun kid-sized options of chicken and waffles.....and hot chocolates, of course. After a 20% tip, the meal came to $88. $88 for breakfast!?!? Yep, my little experiment went precisely as I had hoped.
One thing separates my normal dining out experience from this one-off $88 breakfast experience: intentionality. When we have a set monthly budget for dining out, it forces us to be intentional with our decisions. On a normal day, that meal would have cost less than half of that. However, since we didn't have intentionality (boundaries, practicality, or rational thought), we were going to be the victim of whatever that final bill came out to be.
I'm glad we did. That was the point. It was Sarah's birthday. We had plenty in our dining-out budget this month, and it was a perfect time to perform my little experiment. Win, win, win. But we weren’t victims. We made those choices.
The next time you're out to eat but also trying to live with financial boundaries, choose intentionality. You can still have a wonderful experience and create fun memories. It CAN cost $88 for breakfast, but it doesn't have to. Luckily, you get to choose.